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How do you deal with bullying?

WHY VICTIMS DO NOT SPEAK OUT:

 

The bully gains power by isolating the victim, explains clinical psychologist and senior director of youth services at the Singapore Children's Society, Dr Carol Balhetchet.

The victim also feels like it is his or her fault, and is too ashamed to ask for help.

The victim is worried that adult intervention would make matters worse.

He or she is resigned to the fate of being a victim and does not want to bring trouble to his parents, friends or family members.

Also, the victims are afraid of retaliation from the bully.

SPEAK UP, BE AMONG FRIENDS:

The victim needs to speak up, advises Dr Balhetchet.

By telling other people, that will push the bully in the open.

The victim should stay in the open and be among friends to avoid being picked on.

Even when you are in groups, don't antagonise the bully - it might make the situation worse.

The victim must inform their family member or teacher so they are aware of what's happening. In the worst-case scenario, inform the police.

The victim must remember that it is not their fault. Bullies exist to feed on the victim's fears.


HELPLINES

Coalition Against Bullying for Children and Youth 6223-3122

Singapore Children's Society (for primary school) 1800-274-4788

ComCare 1800-222-0000

Samaritans of Singapore 1800-221-4444