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Lack of open communication causes divorce

Most divorces are caused by a lack of communication between spouses.

Experts told The New Paper that couples need to have an open line of communication with each other to prevent their marriages from breaking down.

Marriage counsellor John Vasavan, who has been advising couples for more than 20 years, said: "From my experience, almost 90 per cent of divorces are due to a lack of communication.

"One party may feel neglected and this may lead to him or her seeking others for company. Sometimes, this leads to premarital affairs."

Commenting on the case involving Yazid Ab Rahman and his wife, Mr Vasavan said both parties could be blamed for their marital problems.

For one, there could be reasons Yazid decided to bury himself in online games.

"His wife, who felt neglected, could have asked him what was wrong and by communicating with each other, they could have tried to solve whatever problems they had," said Mr Vasavan.

Mr Willy Ho, lead counsellor and founder of The Counselling Paradigm, added: "She could also have tried to get people like his good friends and family members to talk to him to help find out what was wrong.

"The couple could also have gone for counselling to try to save the marriage. The marriage could have been saved if they had sought help earlier."