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All he wants is to break fast with his mother

Separated from mum, student who stays in children's home can't break fast with her

Ahmad is like many other 13-year-olds.

He is bold, boisterous and is optimistic in a way only a young person can be.

But his greatest wish is to break fast with his mother.

For the second year in a row, he is spending Ramadan away from her.

It is only when this subject was raised that we saw a change in the boy.

"I'm quite jealous when I see some of the residents go out and break their fast with their family members," Ahmad told The New Paper, with notable sadness.

Ahmad (not his real name) has spent more than a year at Pertapis Children's Home.

According to Mr Sophian Kayat, the head of the home, Ahmad and his older brother were placed in the home's care in March last year after a court order to protect them..

Their mother had been abused by Ahmad's stepfather.

She stays in a separate welfare home.

When Ahmad was first admitted to the home, he understood why he was being separated from his mother, but it was still hard.

"Ahmad is close to his mother so when he was first admitted here, he was moody and easily agitated," said Ahmad's case manager, Miss Hamidah Otheman, 25.

"It took him three to four months before he was able to deal with his emotions and settle into life in the welfare home," she added.

Ahmad described last year's fasting month: "I was very sad because it was the first time that I was fasting away from my mother.

"This year, it's better because I'm already used to it and I have friends here."

When TNP visited the home in Kovan, Ahmad was having his school holidays.

He and the other children at the home clamoured to play games during their morning break.

During the school holidays, the children are allowed to play from 7.30am to 9am.

FOOTBALL LOVE

He loves to play football. The home has a small field - about a quarter the size of a normal football field.

"I support Chelsea and Fernando Torres is my favourite player," he shared between kicks towards an old goalpost.

Even though Ahmad is away from his mother, but he does not complain about the home.

In fact, he credits the home for helping him to get through the Primary School Leaving Examination (PSLE), which he took last year.

"The tuition and the support programmes that they have helped to push my grades up and I was able to pass my PSLE," he said.

"I want to study hard and get into polytechnic and study aerospace engineering," said the secondary school student.

"I heard that there are a lot of jobs as an aerospace engineer."

This is more than personal ambition. He wants to be able to give back to the welfare home.

"Maybe in the future, I can sponsor an event for them or maybe make an activity programme for them," he said.

But for now, all he wants is to be reunited with his mother.

According to Mr Sophian, Ahmad's wish may be granted in the near future.

He says that the next stage for Ahmad is to spend an extended home leave with his mother.

"So long as safety is not compromised, we should be heading towards reunification."

I was very sad because it was the first time that I was fasting away from my mother. This year, it's better because I'm already used to it and I have friends here.

- Ahmad

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