Cracks started appearing three months into relationship

Freelance musician Ummul Qurratu 'Ain Abdul Rahman and Giselle Shi Jia Wei became a couple in July 2011.

Testifying in court yesterday, Miss Ummul said they were happy for about three months before cracks started appearing.

They had their first major argument after friends of Miss Ummul's ex-girlfriend bad-mouthed her to Shi.

But they worked things out.

Later, after Miss Ummul moved into Shi's family home, she tried to see her family once a week.

But every time she told Shi that she was going home, the accused would kick up a fuss, Miss Ummul told the court.

She also had to remain inside Shi's room whenever the latter's parents were around.

Things came to a head in May 2012 when Shi's mother discovered Miss Ummul was staying there and asked her to leave.

The couple packed their things and stayed in a number of Geylang hotels before going to Johor Baru, Malaysia, where they stayed for about a month.

During this time, they commuted to Singapore for work.

As the relationship wore on, Miss Ummul said Shi got increasingly calculating and they started fighting over minor things like toiletries.

While cross-examining Miss Ummul, defence lawyer Jayakumar Naidu asked who the more dominant one was in the relationship.

When she said she did not understand his question, Mr Naidu said: "Who is the 'male' and who is the 'female'?"

In response, Miss Ummul said: "From my outlook, you can guess I'm the male. But I didn't (decide on everything)."